One of the hardest things, personally, that I had trouble adjusting to when I first came to Hellenic practices was to push away those ideals and concepts that culture – in my case Western Culture – holds about the gods and goddesses. Certainly with enough research and reading it became easier as the stories of their deeds took hold in my mind, yet there are times when those initial “one note” descriptors come to mind. The hardest for me for a lot of years was Aphrodite.
I think a lof ot that is because of public perceptions. So many represent her as a nightie wearing flirt who gambols and frolicks and inspires physical love. In so many media representations, and even in many a spell and circle, it is about sex and sex and then some more sex. For a demisexual with a low sex drive and much more interest in the mind, it was hard for me to connection with someone who even in many of her stories is shown as a goddess of physical love.
In truth isn’t wasn’t until after years of pushing myself beyond my limits, using myself up for the sake of others, that I began to truly connect with Aphrodite in such a way that, with time, she eventually had a shrine of her own in my space. What it took was a single phrase that had come to me through social media connections. The concept of self care.
Self care itself varies from person to person, and for many it’s about taking a day for themselves, pampering themselves as they see fit. At it’s core though it is a concept most have a lot of trouble with, and I know I did until only recently. Self care is about taking care of yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically. It’s about embracing yourself as one of the most important things in your life, and treating yourself in the same ways you would others. In fact better than because you can’t be there for others until you’re there for yourself.
When I first heard about self care, I likely snorted and had every plan of being dismissive of it. Right until I heard that voice in my head that made so much in my life snap into place. It was Aphrodite, and it was through her, through self care, that I came to realize that Aphrodite isn’t merely about sex. She is about all kinds of love. Of platonic love. Of friendships that become so deep that they go beyond sex. She is love for yourself, all of yourself, and realizing that the greatest love affair you can ever have is with you.
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